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Top 7: Ways to Get Out of the Doghouse

July 18, 2011

Top 7: Ways To Get Out Of The Doghouse

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Nobody likes being in the doghouse, but if you’re in a relationship, you’re pretty much guaranteed to end up there at some point. Maybe you’ll forget her birthday, maybe you’ll miss an anniversary or maybe you’ll get embarrassingly drunk at her sister’s wedding reception, hit on her mom and punch her uncle in the face. Whatever the reason, at some point you’re going to screw up, and then you’ll be in trouble.


We’ve come up with these 7 ways to get out of the doghouse to make your suffering as brief and as painless as possible. In composing our list of 7 ways to get out of the doghouse, we’ve come up with a few counterintuitive solutions. They all require a little bit of work on your part. Sometimes you’ll need to be a bit creative, and sometimes you’ll just need to man up and admit that you were wrong.

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No.7 Encourage A Conversation

You know you’re in the doghouse when she starts giving you the cold shoulder, and you can be sure you’re not going to get out of the doghouse until she starts talking. She needs to get whatever is upsetting her off of her chest, so encourage her to talk and don’t just keep asking her: What’s wrong?" If you have no idea as to what’s bothering her, take a guess. Even if your guess is wrong, it will at least get the two of you talking again. Initiate a conversation.
Surprise her with your desire to communicate, and you’re on your way out of the doghouse.

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No.6 Make Her Laugh

Making her laugh won’t always work. In fact, sometimes it’s downright dangerous. Occasionally, trying to make a joke out of what you’ve done will only double your trouble. You have to know your audience; it’s essential that you accurately gauge how mad she really is. If you forget to pick up the milk, a little humor could defuse the situation. If she finds lipstick on your collar, it’s not the time to be funny.

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No.5 Buy Her Flowers

Buying her flowers is another of our 7 ways to get out of the doghouse. It’s a method that has been tried and tested by generations of remorseful men. One thing to remember: Sending flowers could lose some of its impact if you send them immediately after you’ve screwed up. She might think you’re trying to buy your way out of the doghouse. For maximum effectiveness, send flowers after you’ve already talked things over with your partner. Sending her flowers after you’ve already got one foot out of the doghouse will be unexpected, thus winning you bonus points. Think about sending them to her office too; that way she’ll get to bask in the envious attention of her coworkers!

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No.4 Cook For Her

Cooking for her is one of the most foolproof ways to get out of the doghouse. Surprise her with your culinary skills. Even if she’s raging mad at you, it will be hard for her to stay angry if you’ve taken the time to make her favorite meal. You’ll score extra points if you aren’t typically the cooking type.

 

 

 

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No.3 Listen To Her

Often, women just need to vent. They need you to know exactly what it was about your behavior that upset them, and why it has upset them.
Another one of our 7 ways to get out of the doghouse, listening is as simple as it may be time-consuming — just let her talk and pay attention. It’s important that you resist the urge to interject when using this strategy. Don’t interrupt or try and tell your side of the story. Shut up and listen.

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No.2 Leave

Conversely, sometimes the best thing you can do is walk away. Leave the room. Leave the house. Give her some space and time. We’re not suggesting you storm out while she’s in mid-sentence. Just recognize that if she’s furious, there may be no reasoning with her. In those instances, you need to let her know that you’re going to take off so that she can collect her thoughts. Tell her that the two of you can talk about things later. Then make yourself scarce.

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No.1 Say "I’m Sorry"

In the end, nothing beats a genuine "I’m sorry." An honest apology is probably going to go along with each of our 7 ways to get out of the doghouse. Just make sure you mean it. Look her in the eye and say "I’m sorry." Don’t say "I apologize" or "I’m sorry my actions upset you" — statements like those aren’t admissions of wrong-doings. They’re attempts to pass the blame on to her, like it’s her fault she’s upset. Say you’re sorry and mean it. Specify exactly what it is you’re sorry about too; that way, she’ll be sure you understand her.

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